A farmer had some puppies he needed to sell. He painted a sign advertising the 4 pups and set about nailing it to a post on the edge of his yard. As he was driving the last nail into the post, he felt a tug on his overalls. He looked down into the eyes of a little boy. “Mister,” he said, “I want to buy one of your puppies.” “Well,” said the farmer, as he rubbed the sweat off the back of his neck, “These puppies come from fine parents and cost a good deal of money.” The boy dropped his head for a moment. Then reaching deep into his pocket, he pulled out a handful of change and held it up to the farmer. “I’ve got thirty-nine cents. Is that enough to take a look?” “Sure,” said the farmer. And with that he let out a whistle. “Here, Dolly!” he called. Out from the doghouse and down the ramp ran Dolly followed by four little balls of fur. The little boy pressed his face against the chain link fence. His eyes danced with delight. As the dogs made their way to the fence, the little boy noticed something else stirring inside the doghouse.Slowly another little ball appeared, this one noticeably smaller. Down the ramp it slid. Then in a somewhat awkward manner, the little pup began hobbling toward the others, doing its best to catch up… “I want that one,” the little boy said, pointing to the runt. The farmer knelt down at the boy’s side and said, “Son, you don’t want that puppy. He will never be able to run and play with you like these other dogs would.” With that the little boy stepped back from the fence, reached down, and began rolling up one leg of his trousers. In doing so he revealed a steel brace running down both sides of his leg attaching itself to a specially made shoe. Looking back up at the farmer, he said, “You see sir, I don’t run too well myself, and he will need someone who understands.” With tears in his eyes, the farmer reached down and picked up the little pup.  Holding it carefully he handed it to the little boy. “How much?” asked the little boy. “No charge,” answered the farmer, “There’s no charge for love.” The world is full of people who need someone who understands.

Lead wicks were banned from the U.S marketplace in 2003, and for several years before that were found primarily in inexpensive foreign candle imports. NCA-member manufacturers voluntarily discontinued using lead wicks in the mid-1970s, and in 2000, asked all U.S. candle manufacturers to join its members in signing a formal pledge not to use lead wicks.

The metal-core wicks sometimes found in candles are typically zinc- or tin-core wicks. They are most often used in container candles and votives to keep the wick upright when the surrounding wax liquefies. Scientific studies have repeatedly shown both zinc- and tin-core wicks to be safe.

After much reading about wicks, I began to wonder if the inexpensive candles I was purchasing at wholesale places had good/bad wicks. There truly is no way to find out except to burn them. I found several votive candles, which I had purchased at a discount store, were giving off a soot that I could see. Other candles purchased at discount stores, including tapers, were doing a little smoking, not enough to be annoying but enough to see that there was something inside the wick which was burning and leaving a soot.

There have been so many warnings about candles giving off soot and to stay away from them. Being a bit on the money saving side, I didn’t want to throw out my candles. However, being on the safe side, I knew that once these candles were gone, I would never purchase them again. I didn’t.

That is one of the reasons I started looking for wholesale candles that had the following criteria:

1. Good wicks

2. Gentle fragrance, not overpowering but a gentle smell that permeates throughout the house.

3. Made from beeswax with some paraffin for a good burn.

4. Many good colors and scents to choose from

5. Would burn as prescribed in literature regarding the candle.

After my husband and I looked at various sites, read their literature, and purchased a few candles, we found a company that created the type of candle we were interested in having on our website, were willing to burn in our home and would suggest our friends and family to purchase them and burn them.

Our handmade candles have a light fragrance, good wicks with cotton centers, burn correctly and are within anyone’s budget.

To guarantee that our candles do burn correctly, I added several candle burning tips on my site and have placed several burning tips within my blog on Word Press.

We decided to offer free shipping for orders over $75.00 to help our customers. We have gone the extra mile by working on deadlines, giving extra candles when we found that our manufacturer no longer carried that particular candle being offered to the public and we have made several changes to Tobey’s Candles. We have added new candles.

• For a margin of safety, discontinue burning a candle when 2 inches (2”) of wax remain (1/2 inch if in a container). This will also help prevent possible heat damage to the counter/surface and prevent glass containers from cracking or breaking.

Everyone can appreciate the power of candles. From the gentle glow of the flame at the top of the wick to the mystery of the magical scents that seem to come from that pool of melting wax, they are intriguing and romantic accents to any home.

Candles have cast a light on man’s progress for centuries. However, there is very little known about the origin of candles. Although it is often written that the first candles were developed by the Ancient Egyptians who used rush lights, or torches, and were made by soaking the pithy core of reeds in molten tallow, the rush lights had no wick like a candle.

It is the Romans who are credited with developing the wick candle, using it to aid travelers at dark and lighting homes and places of worship at night. Like the early Egyptians, the Romans relied on tallow, gathered from cattle or sheep suet, as the principal ingredient of candles.

It was not until the Middle Ages when beeswax, a substance secreted by honey bees to make their honeycombs, was introduced. Beeswax candles were a marked improvement over those made with tallow, for they did not produce a smoky flame, or emit an acrid odor when burned. Instead, beeswax candles burned pure and clean. However, they were expensive, and, therefore, only the wealthy could afford them.

Colonial women offered America’s first contribution to candle making when they discovered that boiling the grayish green berries of bayberry bushes produced a sweet-smelling wax that burned clean. However, extracting the wax from the bayberries was extremely tedious. As a result, the popularity of bayberry candles soon diminished.

The growth of the whaling industry in the late 18th century brought the first major change in candle making since the Middle Ages, when spermaceti, a wax obtained by crystallizing sperm whale oil, became available in quantity. Like beeswax, the spermaceti wax did not elicit a repugnant odor when burned. Furthermore, spermaceti wax was found harder than both tallow and beeswax. It did not soften or bend in the summer heat. Historians note that the first “standard candles” were made from spermaceti wax.

It was during the 19th century when most major developments affecting contemporary candle making occurred. In 1834, inventor Joseph Morgan introduced a machine which allowed continuous production of molded candles by the use of a cylinder which featured a movable piston that ejected candles as they solidified.

Further developments in candle making occurred in 1850 with the production of paraffin wax made from oil and coal shales. Processed by distilling the residues left after crude petroleum was refined, the bluish-white wax was found to burn cleanly and with no unpleasant odor. Of greatest significance was its cost - paraffin wax was more economical to produce than any preceeding candle fuel developed. And while paraffin’s low melting point may have posed a threat to its popularity, the discovery of stearic acid solved this problem. Hard and durable, stearic acid was being produced in quantity by the end of the 19th century. By this period, most candles being manufactured consisted of paraffin and stearic acid.

With the introduction of the light bulb in 1879, candle making declined until the turn of the century when a renewed popularity for candles emerged.

Candle manufacturing was further enhanced during the first half of the 20th century through the growth of U.S. oil and meatpacking industries. With the increase of crude oil and meat production, also came an increase in the by-products that are the basic ingredients of contemporary candles paraffin and stearic acid.

No longer man’s major source of light, candles continue to grow in popularity and use. Today, candles symbolize celebration, mark romance, define ceremony, and accent decor — continuing to cast a warm glow for all to enjoy.

The above is from History of Candles.

For most of us, it would be a piece of cake having cataract surgery.  Both of my lenses have been replaced and my vision is now 20/15.  It used to be so bad that my glasses were thick and I felt ugly.

So please keep Mom Craft in prayer for her surgery tomorrow. 

We will be leaving around 5:30 a.m. to be in Marion, OH at 6:30-7:00.

 Okay, let’s get started on this last installment.

• Two way communication is very important in a marriage or any relationship.  In a marriage, it is mandatory.  If there is no two-way communication, how can you get a clear idea what are your spouse’s physical and emotional yearnings?  If couples do not communicate on an intimate level, love flies out the window.
• Each partner needs to pay attention to the needs of the other partner.  Lending a patient ear to each other’s words is important in keeping your relationship alive.
• Sometimes you just need space.  Giving space to each other will help your love to develop.
• There are times when you feel miles apart and wonder why you even married this individual.  There must have been something you had in common, interest or hobbies, when you were first married.  Think about your common interests, reinvent them if you need to, pursue new interests together.  The is of thrill pursuing a common interest is altogether different.  Look for the magic and begin again.
• While having discussions with each other regarding your relationship, seek suggestions for revitalizing it.  You put forward your ideas also, however, don’t force things.
• Instead of delcaring your plans, demonstrate them in action.  Kindness works wonders.
• When you succeed in keeping your promises, this will surely draw your spouse closer to you and make your spouse love you more.
• Should you get annoyed at something, do not keep your anger suppressed.  It will build inside to where some small thing happens and you explode.  Instead, go have a heart-to-heart conversation and work it out.
• At a party, set the dance floor alit.  Enjoy putting your arms around your spouse and dance the night away.  Thus you can enjoy some joyous moments together.
• One trick to more fun and closeness is to enjoy making each other laugh.  Whisper some raunchy jokes to enliven the sexual mood and learn the tricks of playing romantic bedroom games.
• On your list of priorities, keep sex in the game.  Regular sex is as important as food and sleep.  Finding your partner’s secret sexual fantasies will bring great happiness to you both.  Spending a good amount of time on several exciting and adventerous foreplay and then the sexual act brings joy to both of you.
• Arousing your spouse intellectually is necessary besides stimulating the body.
• Don’t forget to have your candles lit in the bathroom, bedroom, around the house for a nice evening home.

So, are you ready to experiment on these suggestions?  Try them. 

• Should one of you enjoy cooking, gather in the kitchen and cook some homemade delicacies together.  Create a romantic dinner with candles, fine china settings and flowers.  Sometimes just cooking together is rewarding without the romantic dinner setting. 
• Quality time.  Haven’t we all heard that phrase.  It is real.  Spending quality time together will make your relationship stronger.  So take some time out of your busy schedule to be with each other.
• Being honest in your relationship is important.
• Being honest in your work and never neglecting your profession can be rewarding for both of you as long as you do not forget each other.  Becoming caught up in your work and neglecting your mate is one of the greatest downfalls in a marriage.
• Both of your dreams are important.  By understanding your partner’s innermost desires, whether it is personal or professional and lending a hand in your partner realizing them, will have great rewards.
• Without mutual respect, love can not sustain.  RESPECT each other.
• Two way communication is required for any relationship to grow.  Being married makes this two way communicatin mandatory.   If you don’t communicate with each other, how can you get a clear understanding of your partner’s physical and emotional yearnings?  Believe me, love flies out the window if couples do not communicate on an intimate level.  My husband and I found this out and spent 6 years bridging the rift that grew between us.
• When an argument begins and you do not want to argue, walk away.  However, do not stay away, emotionally or physically.  Remember your spouse is upset and you both need to communicate with each other.  After the temper has cooled down, take a walk, hold hands and remember some special things you admire about each other.  When or during the walk, talk out the “thing” that was bothering your spouse.  You might be surprised what truly set your spouse off wasn’t something you said or did, it might be an accumulation of “things” that others had contributed to their day and your statement or action brought it all to a head. 
• DON’T go to bed angry.  Anger builds and destroys relationships.
• Lend a patient ear to your partner even if you do not feel like it. 
• Give each other a hug and kiss throughout your evening.  These little surprises do mean a lot.  However, realize when your partner is busy with an important project.   Saying you love them, bringing them a cup of coffee or tea, touching their shoulder in passing, etc. will remind your partner that he/she is loved and you miss spending a few moments (or hours) with them.  That partner should remind himself(herself) that their partner is telling them something special.
• Respond in love.

My husband I have been married for over 46 years.  We have endured our share of bumps along the way.  So how did we survive all of these bumps?  Here are a few ideas on how to keep your marriage alive and well and many of these ideas have been practiced in our home.

•  Always making the spouse feel special.  Showering compliments on her looks and sexual charm is quite rewarding for her.  Especially when she is told how beautiful she looks.
• Receiving flowers and other lovely gifts without any specific reason brings a smile to her face.  These little things make your relationship stronger.  I remember the time I opened my refrigerator to start supper and there was a bouquet of flowers in the center of the refrigerator.  When I turned around to say thanks, there stood my hubby with a big smile on his face. 
• On different occasions, we plan dates.  Yes, at our ages of 68 and 69, we still create dating times.  We were remembering our cruising days:  we went from one end of Marion, Ohio (Stewarts Root Beer Drive-in) to the other end of town (L&K Restaurant).  Our dating days were back in 1961.  So we revived them once again.  Fun.  This week (July 2, 2008) we took my husband’s mother to Stewarts Root Beer Stand for an evening meal.  Mom is 95 years old and she shared how she used to come to this same root beer stand while she was dating.
• By planning your “dates” around a picnic, don’t forget to bring candles.  Yes, lit candles on a picnic table may not seem romantic but it is.  It is something your spouse will not expect but be extremely pleased that you did.  It will bring joy and laughter.
• While walking down the trails, hold hands.  That human touch means so much.
• Taking an evening stroll around your neighborhood, walking along the riverside or strolling down a country road, reach out and take your spouse’s hand.  The rewards are great.
• Regular physical touch is necessary.  On many occasions my husband comes into my office, leans down and gives me a kiss.  This brings a smile to my face.  There are many times when I enter his office, get behind him, reach around with my arms and hug him.
• Try kissing your spouse on the cheek before leaving for the office.  When you return home, greet your spouse with a hug and a kiss.  This takes such little time but warms the heart.
• Take a bath together.  By having lit candles around the bathroom, it gives an ambience of romance.  Try having glasses of wine or soda (if you don’t drink) sitting near the bathtub; give each other a toast; massage each other with aromatic oils.  Pleasure is something we all enjoy.
• Take some time out of your busy schedule (each day) to be with each other.  That quality time you spend together will make your bond stronger. 
• When your children are young, you might not feel that you have the strength after a busy day to be romantic or you may not feel like it.  That is the time, you need that extra hug, a kiss on the cheek, a swirl around the kitchen with no music playing, to climb into the bathtub together, massage your spouse’s feet will help him/her to relax, or simply putting your arm around your spouse and encouraging her to put her head on your shoulder.  These little things mean so much to a mother who is wiped out and bring you so many new rewards.  These little pleasures bring great rewards and are more remembered than you might think.  When you are older, you may remind you of those little things that meant so much to her and most of them will only cost you time.
• Think of the ways you want to be treated by your spouse and treat your spouse even better.  Your rewards will keep growing and your benefits will improve measurably.

I asked Nancy (sister in law) to explain what happened. It seems that my mother (Martha Kerns) began shaking and chilling sometime Monday afternoon and climbed into bed. Earlier that day she had refused her Meals on Wheels lunch and he reported it to the Lutheran Manor office that Mrs. Kerns refused her meal. Debbie, the resident manager, entered Mom’s room sometime in the afternoon and found her in bed. Debbie asked Mom if she could call Nancy and Jim or even call the squad for Mom. Debbie told Mom that she didn’t look good.

My mother is so stubborn! She refused any type of assistance. “I’ll be fine. All I need to do is sleep. Nancy and Jim have to get up at 3:30 a.m. to go to work. Don’t call them.” So Debbie left with a sinking feeling in her heart.

Mom slept all afternoon and when she woke up she couldn’t move her legs. She needed to go to the bathroom. The poor dear had to eliminate in her bed, didn’t have the phone near her and the pull cord was draped over her dresser which is 5 feet away.

Debbie came into the office early and decided to check on Mom as her first priority.  She used her pass key and opened Mom’s apartment door, went to check on Mom and found mt Mom lying in the same place in the bed.  She helped Mom sit up, reached over to the night stand and called Nancy’s cell phone.  Nancy had gone to the library and was on her way to pick up Mom for her doctor appointment.  Imagine Nancy’s surprise with that phone call. 

My sister in law has taken care of Mom for the past 5 years:  doctor appointments, picking up her medication, purchasing her groceries each week, cleaning her apartment, changing her bedding and taking Mom’s laundry home each week.

Nancy and Mom had a “discussion” about calling the squad. Mom refused to go to the hospital, refused to leave her apartment, etc. When Nancy got firm with her, Mom stated she would not leave her apartment until she was cleaned up - don’t blame her at all.

Nancy (God bless her heart) got a towel and placed it behind Mom and began the long procedure of cleaning Mom up and placing all of Mom’s clothing in bags.

After calling the squad, she called my brother, Jim, and told him what was going on.  He works for the county.  He met Mom, the squad and Nancy at Mary Rutan Hospital.  In the hospital ER the nurses tried to get Mom to walk to no avail.  No one could understand why she couldn’t use her legs.  It seemed like they were incapable of holding her up. 

After many tests, it was determined that Mom had a severe kidney infection.  No one checked the skin on Mom’s legs.

In the same time period, my husband and I had 5 items on our agenda. I was receiving over $6,000 worth of medication sometime during the day, we had planned to eat out with our senior group from church, needed to take our car back to the dealership which they had repaired just 3 days ago and was having the same problems again, my husband had his yearly heart check up at the heart specialist and we couldn’t miss this appointment and I needed to take our granddaughter to her driving lesson. We were able to find someone to do most of the above list.

My neighbor, bless her heart, watches a tiny baby and 2 other children plus her own son - agreed to look out for my medication and take it into her home.

Oh yes, there were at least 6 phone calls to make prior to our leaving. I come from a family of 8 children and we all live in different parts of Ohio and one in Virginia.

We drove from the heart specialist in Northern Columbus, OH to Bellefontaine, OH, picked up my youngest sibling, Michael, and visited Mom for several hours at Mary Rutan Hospital.

Upon arriving at the hospital, my husband didn’t recognize my mother. Her face was so swollen, red and blotchy and she was asleep. The nurse woke her up for us. When she came awake, she could open her left eye a litle and her right eye refused to open. After what seemed like an eternity, she opened her left eye.

After a few moments, I lifted the bedding off her right leg, pulled the sheet back and got a shock. Her right leg from her knee down, was so swollen and red and there were two streaks of red running upward onto her inner and outer thigh. There was a grey thing on the side of her calf with an area at the top that looked like seepage and it was about 4 inches long.  What in the world was this thing on Mom’s leg?   Funny, no one else seemed to have noticed it. 

Mom had been given a bag of cipro for her kidneys and another very strong antibiotic for whatever else is going on with her.  After mentioning this area of her leg, the nurse took a good look at it and stated she needed to call the doctor on call.  When he took one look, he stated that Mom had an ulceration on her leg and thanked me for finding it. 

Today (Wednesday April 2) she will be tested for a blood clot in her leg. 

During my visit, Mom looked at me and said, “what about my mattress?” I told her Jim and Nancy threw it out. We would need to buy a new mattress and bedding when she got home.  She wasn’t too happy about that.  At least her sense of humor took over.  She gave a little laugh, shook her head and stated, “at least I have the money for a new mattress.  Goodness, that mattress was only a year old.” 

Mom has always had to count her pennies for everything throughout her life.  Having some money in the checking account made her feel like a millionaire.

My sister and nephew came up around 6 p.m. and stayed until after 8 p.m. I still need to call our oldest sister in Virginia and let her know about Mom.

We will be traveling back and forth to Bellefontaine, OH (an hour and twenty minutes each way) until we know Mom is out of danger and then go every other day. The price of gas and meals out will be blessed by God.

However, the we turned into me.  My husband, Larry, became ill and didn’t want to be around Mom in case he could give her another illness and she had enough on her plate.

I began traveling to and from Bellefontaine on a daily basis.  I missed one day because my husband was running a high fever.  Mom was in the hospital getting good care and many family members were visiting her.

One never leaves their mother alone. We still believe in family.

Respectfully submitted:

Tobey Anne Craft